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Why are Asian men and Caucasian women couples more common lately?

Posted by Ria, 17 Oct

Have you noticed a recent surge in Asian men and white women being together lately? Bruce Lee and Linda Lee Caldwell were one of Hollywood's first Asian man/Caucasian women celebrity couples … and that was in the 60s! So what's changed?

The question is, why is this interracial combo not as widespread as other interracial combos?

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There is definitely a higher percentage of Asian women with white men than ever before. Why?

The video below was taken by video crew who asked random and predominantly Asian guys and girls "Why Asian girls are attracted to white guys". Guess what... Stereotype! Stereotype and more Stereotype!

According to the video, most respondents described Asian men as being too shy or unassertive. The woman also stated Asian men were too effeminate and even too short! Apparently this is turning Asian women away and they are beginning to look elsewhere.

Asian stereotypes have been created by society in general. Enough articles have been written about what I would like to call stereotypical racism in the Asian community – for instance, how Caucasian men actively seek an Asian woman because of their exotic looks and supposed submissivenes?. How many have this so called Asian fetish or yellow fever?

Asian females, on the other hand, have constantly been disgraced and labeled "white-washed" women busy trying to climb the social ladder by their own communities and are finding more acceptance with races other than their own.

So what about the rise of interracial relationships between the Asian man and Caucasian woman? Is it that Asian men are fed up with their female counterparts and that they take revenge by dating Caucasian women? (just a thought) Or just that there are fewer Asian females in their dating pool so they are expanding their own horizons?

My conclusion is that maybe it's not that at all. I think people should be intelligent enough not to allow trivial stereotypes to conform to their preferences on who to date. Why do you think there is a rise in the Asian man-Caucasian woman interracial combo?

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  1.   Frances says:
    Posted: 09 Jun 10

    I am a white 22 year old American girl who has been dating my Chinese American boyfriend since we were 18. As a part of the younger generation, I seriously don't think many people have ever judged or cared about our racial combination. We are two of the most compatible couples most people say they've seen. The only time we have cultural conflicts honestly has absolutely nothing to do with our difference in ethnicity, rather he and his family are from Mississippi while I am a born and bred girl from Maine, so really our problems usually stem from northern and southern American differences, rather than white and asian. I have never dated someone though due to how they looked, rather to how we get along. He's about six foot but honestly it wouldn't matter to me if he were 5'2. He's my best friend and that's all that should matter ever in a relationship.

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  2.   HappyWFofaAM/WFCouple says:
    Posted: 07 Jun 10

    I agree with those who said that--at least in the case of Asian American men--most don't date outside of their race. Those that bother to try are usually successful. Where you were brought up seems to be quite important. I'm a white woman married to a Chinese American man. I'm well-educated (working on my second Master's degree) and so is my husband. Contrary to what RShen said, it's not just the tech-savvy/math/science geek white girls who will date Asian guys: I'm an English major! I do agree, though, that the "educated" thing is important. But it would be important for any relationship, as far as I'm concerned. So what does my husband have that made me stay? A)He's very, very smart. B) He's well-educated, C)He's very hardworking and responsible, D)He's absolutely gorgeous. He's 5'9, but people always think he's taller because he's got the biggest, broadest set of shoulders I've ever seen on a man--of any race--and he's got a large frame: wears extra large shirts and has to buy extra-large gloves (large gloves are just wee too snug). He's not fat, either. He just happens to built like a natural tank, and he's not a gym rat, either. And also...he's proportionate. That's all I will say. I've never had any complaints about his size. He's just a wonderful, complex, beautiful human being. He does fit a few stereotypes: total math/science nerd, likes sci-fi books and action flicks, works as an engineer, makes good money, is a walking/talking car encyclopedia, can fix his own cars, can build and fix his own computers and can do pretty much any handyman-type of thing. His 5'2 brother is also married to a white woman. I think all it takes to date inter-racially is open-mindedness, confidence, and initiative, which, come to think of it, is what it takes to successfully date in the first place.

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  3.   NewYorker says:
    Posted: 07 Jun 10

    I don't care

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  4.   Member says:
    Posted: 23 Apr 10

    people in the U.S. are just way too into themselves for their own good! I notice that a lot of white people have these ridiculously large egos, and it's starting to spread to Asian females...boo! Whatever happened to being humble and modest? Men walk with money in their hands, and women walk around showing off their bodies. It's just another form of prostitution, like it or not it is. Someone has the money...and the other has the piece of @$$.

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  5.   Member says:
    Posted: 23 Apr 10

    I think that white men have it made, they've set up in image for themselves, and they use it wisely to their advantage. They've taken the world for a fast one, we are all just people. YET, white men have convinced themselves and many of the world that they are somehow superior. And as far as some of you acting as though love is the agenda, get real. If it's about love, then why don't we see more interracial couples...and when we do see them, why is it mostly a white man with an Asian woman? I know way too many people from many different races and cultures...too many to be convinced that we live in a world where things are becoming lop-sided and the white man is trying to take everything for themselves. I know many people are not going to like what I've said, and to you I say...open your ****** eyes, and see "the truth."

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  6.   Bellara says:
    Posted: 20 Apr 10

    Asians worship anything white. You can be an a$$ & treat them like crap & most Asians will still admire the daylight out of you just for being white. So this article is no surprise. Most of them dont marry for love or even comfort, they marry for convience or status purpose. The darker you are, the lower you rank in most (if not all) Asian countries; so if you marry a white person or anything white (lol) your rank will go up...how sad!

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  7.   omondieu says:
    Posted: 19 Apr 10

    @Jamie - you married your husband when he was 18?...Also, I don't want to sound rude, but if you're so unhappy with your marriage, why not file for divorce?

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  8.   Jamie says:
    Posted: 18 Apr 10

    well I am white woman , been maried to chinese man for 10 years, my life is hell. I do all the yard work while he sleeps all day. He holds down one job second shift and thats all he has ever done. I do everything else and I do mean everything. He is not romantic he hates to communicate, doesnt like sex. And with age gets even worse, so DONT marry a chinese guy thats lazy like mine, he is 6'2 and 28 and acts like a 16 year old nerd playing video games with zero responsibility for his family. I wish now I would have married a mexican man at least they will communicate, make love and work with you as a family unitand not sleep the day away like chinese men do.

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  9.   Paul says:
    Posted: 12 Apr 10

    Sometimes the simplest answer is the BEST answer. I am Asian American and I live in a country where only THREE PERCENT of the population is Asian. Why should I be racist and look only for Asians to date? Why limit myself to only THREE PERCENT of the eligible single population out there? Anyone here want to be forced to limit yourself to only 3 percent of the eligible singles out there? It's already hard trying to find the right person even for those in the majority. Sheesh! P.S. - Happily married to a European American woman and we're expecting twins!!

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  10.   faith87 says:
    Posted: 07 Apr 10

    Sounds like my problem. Im half white and half asian. I don't feel accepted by either of my cultures and would prefer to date someone who is neither asian or white :)

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  11.   ksid7213 says:
    Posted: 06 Apr 10

    Hi I am a white jewish woman in a 7 years long relationship with a japanese man.I think it may be true that some asian man are more feminine, but I do not think it is a disadvantage .My partner and I have opposite gender roles in our relationships(He is more genteel and caring and concerned with cleaning and household, while I am more dominant intimacy-wise, less emotion and more career focused ). However we are very happy together and I see no reason why someone will consider asian man unattractive.In fact I have never thought of my partner as asian or japanese or anything other then a sweet honest person . And yes i agree with jewel65 -"the stereotype of Asian men being small down there is bullshit!"

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  12.   M says:
    Posted: 04 Apr 10

    I'm white and married to a wonderful Vietnamese man. We get along really well and I love him very much!

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  13.   Layla says:
    Posted: 01 Apr 10

    Okay... That video is so retarded I am a WHITE female and I ONLY like asian men... (I DON'T WATCH/READ ANIME) I get asked out a lot by white/black/mexican people.. but i reject them all because I only like asian men. Honestly... I don't care if they have small d***s as people claim. I'm not a wh*** to think about that... I have big boobs 34D and I am 5'3 127Ibs ...the last thing on my mind is the penis size.. I care more about the looks and personality...

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  14.   omondieu says:
    Posted: 30 Mar 10

    Aw Chris, it's nothing you need to over-analyze. Your post almost seems to imply that you're concerned about your preference! Just go with the flow, dude. Your love of ladies of colour is no more unusual than another white guy's fondness for blondes, or for brown eyes, etc. Why do you like them? Who cares? You just do! :)

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  15.   Chris says:
    Posted: 29 Mar 10

    Hmmm. I'm a white male. I am only 5'6", not fat. I don't know if it is weird or not but I just like women with darker skin. Could be Asian, Hispanic , Black, Indian ( both native american or India doesn't matter). I am not sure why, but it is not "submissiveness" that's for sure. I think that notion does not apply to me. I guess the big question for myself is and maybe someone else could help me on this, is why do I like darker skin. Always have.

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  16.   rshen says:
    Posted: 28 Mar 10

    I am very westernized. I left Hong Kong at 7, and spent all my childhood in Europe and the US, so I'm fully emerged into the Western culture. My parents always complaint that I didn't know anything about the Chinese culture, and even my ex girlfriends (I only dated whites and latinas) were shocked that I did not know almost anything about Chinese values. In fact, they knew more than I. I seen lots of white guys with average asian girls, and many asian guys with sexy white girls. For me dating white girls were never really a problem, mostly due to the way I select my dates. I realized that white girls with strong mathematical abilities, good science majors and scientists are much more open in dating asians. Many of my girlfriends (white and latinas) were engineers, mathematicians, medical doctors, dentists and psychologists. Many were beautiful and absolutely brilliant. Some were even much brighter than I. Not that I'm very far behind. My entire family with the exception of one cousin were pushed by our parents to our limit. We were conditioned to excel, compete and help one each other to outsmart and out-compete others. My sister, brother and cousins are scientists, mathematicians, a lawyer, a medical doctor, an oncologist, a nuclear physics, and several engineers with their MA, MD, PhD, and Dr.h.c. from Princeton, Standford, Berkeley, MIT, Oxford, ESADE, Columbia, Duke and others. They are professors, military specialists, NASA specialists, researches at World Health, an adviser in the European Central Bank and top executives. It was because of my over achievements that I was fortunate to date some of the brightest women. And those women are not concern with a man's penis size nor the color of their skin but with their personality and their intellectual capacity. I am not the only one. My sister married a white guy, a cousin married a beautiful brunette girl , another cousin married a blond girl, I am married to a beautiful blond and some of my Asian friends and colleagues also married white women.

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  17.   cheeky says:
    Posted: 26 Mar 10

    I am an Asian-American female and growing up I had a tough time because I ended up with very western features and that in itself made me a target to a lot of the adolescent asian girls in high school. I think it's safe to say whether women are white or asian, most all are pretty petty and jealous. As for men, I don't have a preference, but only caucasian men have pursued me and thus, I have only dated white men and one Asian man. The one Asian man I dated was very confident and perhaps that might be what sets Asian men apart from the usually too-forward white guy. When it comes to marriage, I believe Asian men do set boundaries to where their significant others don't feel cornered by the in-laws whereas the caucasian man I am dating right now cannot stand up for himself against his mother who is very very critical (the type to go to church, praise Jesus, then talk straight trash about women around her). I cannot stand her and I stand by my belief women of that calibur exist in every race. It's rare that I see an attractive asian woman with an attractive white male as they always couple with average looking white males. I see tons of handsome asian men dating plain or chubby or just wholesome white girls. Same from either perspective really.

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  18.   rshen says:
    Posted: 23 Mar 10

    Don't count on it. Asians are smarter than that. There is such thing as prenup. If you don't know, it means you're too dump. Good for you Vietnamese Guy! You're pretty correct. All it takes is some confidence to approach a white girl. Many white girls I dated were absolutely brilliant and beautiful. And who says beautiful girls are not smart? That is another stereotype!

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  19.   Sunshiny says:
    Posted: 22 Mar 10

    I AM A BLACK WOMAN, who grew up with AMERAsian children of every biracial blend due to a nearby military base. I had more asian homegirls growing up than black girls. I am quite exposed to the various Asian cultures, so I make my comment with the utmost desire to NOT OFFEND. I know in every culture there are GORGEOUS FOLK AND BUTT-UGLY FOLK- Asians are no exception. So this comment had nothing to do with looks but SIZE DOES MATTER. Despite the A-Americans' community tendency to be self-admittedly racist, esp toward blacks and what seems to be THEIR OVER-APPRECIATION OF even the most AVERAGE OF WHITE FOLK, I have gladly embraced dating Asian American M. But I have never gotten pass the initial stages of dating, because ALL OF the 3, yeah, i'm going to say only 3-- that I have dated have had the smallest penises I have ever seen!!! I just could not bring myself to bother having them 'enter' me. I loved one so much in particular, I figured I'd just try anal sex with him and use a dildo for vaginal penetration. Honestly, the small penis' experiences just killed me!!! Personalities were awesome, sweetness, sexy kisses, the works but when one pulled out a condom made for "smaller" penises, I just died inside. They got me so excited with the foreplay but in the end, I gotta be "pummeled" with some thickness. I've looked for evidence to the contrary, like Asian porn, but NOTHING has shown me differently. I'm a sexual being, so as badly as I want to look pass superficialities, I gotta be rocked sexually! Currently, I live in big city with a ton of professional- Asian-American men that look good, have nice clothes, bodies, jobs, and I'm sure they can get met me excited in the lead-up to sex but the follow-thru just has never happend. I just can't add another notch to my belt hoping that eventually I'll be able to orgasm with such tiny penis'. So sad for me I guess. LOOK, i know I've just come out on the unfortunate side of this heinous stereotype, bcz I KNOW FOR A FACT all black men are not packing big tools NOR are they all good in bed. IF that were the case, I'd still be dating black men exclusively. I have been VERY VERY HAPPY with my multicultural sex life. Finally, My GF in Dallas had a baby with a Japanese American man and she said he had the biggest penis she had ever handled. LOL, sorry, but I've only heard about this elusive Loch Ness monster twice in my life. Even my sister who is the biggest sexual DUD i know, didn't bother to get laid while she was in Japan for two years bcz their was a size issue! So, If you are an Asian M and haven't taken total offense to this comment and you got atleast 6" and some girth, pls holla at me. I'm a pretty, small/medium size and fit black woman who is open to interracial dating. I know AM can be very hot, with awesome bodies, great conversations and very humorous, so I know what y'all working with, in those regards.

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  20.   tim says:
    Posted: 19 Mar 10

    because the second generation asian males are starting to graduate from medical school. the white women can just lay on their backs and close their eyes and think about all the alimony she will get when she ditches their ass after 2 years.

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  21.   Member says:
    Posted: 15 Mar 10

    I am a Vietnamese guy who was lucky enough have inherited both my mom and dads' striking good looks. I've also been a gym rat since I was 18 and now have I've evolved into a 35 year-old super fit accountant. I don't understand what the big issue is with landing the hot white girls,..that's not so hard to do. In fact, it's so easy anyone can do it. You gotta start hitting the gym to make yourself strong and just ignore that arbitrary crap spewed by the media. Just treat women with respect and treat them like princesses and they'll come to you. I've found my beautiful princess. We've been together for 5 years. I helped put her through Universityfor 4 years for her finance degree while I was working in a public accounting firm. We bough a beautiful dog named Abby . We both moved back to our home town last June 2009. I asked for her hand in marriage last X-Mas. Both our families and all our friends are so happy for us. Contrary to what is shown out there, I am a handsome Vietnamese guy engaged to a beautiful person (both inside and outside) who happens to be white. I must say though that when we walk down the street, the dudes eye out my fiancee and the (girls of all nationalities) check me out. This is my reality, I don't see why it shouldn't a reality for other asian guys. Dave

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  22.   HyderabadChick says:
    Posted: 13 Mar 10

    I imagine that if there really is some sort of upsurge in cross cultural/ cross racial dating among white and Asian groups it's mostly the result of opportunity: There are more of these two groups living in close proximity than in the past. More Asians are travelling to the west - if only for a visit - and so are more white folks. I figure curiosity's dating motivation too. Compared to other so called "minority" groups, whites seem to hold Asians in the highest regard: whether the criteria is attractiveness, work ethic, intelligence or family values. Asians, from what I hear them say and what I see - seem to prefer to date and marry among themselves. If they will date/ marry out, a white partner is more acceptable to their families and communities than any other.

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  23.   L says:
    Posted: 12 Mar 10

    OK people, time to break off your tales, they have little to do with the reality. When the man is firm, he is firm. When the woman is femenine, she is, etc. Not to say there are no cultural specifics to each one of us, but those are just the "icings" on the cake so to say. My story: I am a caucasian woman, and find men of all races attractive (if they are attractive:). And I am probably the pickiest girl around, too. It is important for me that a man is being a man, charming, confident, funny, good, etc. I am dating this asian guy that I think just might have it all:) Just felt like saying it after reading through a couple of the comments :)

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  24.   kahlil says:
    Posted: 24 Feb 10

    i am asian and i do find white women (who are beautiful) attractive. i also find any beautiful women of any nationality attractive. i had african, japanese, dutch, portuguese girlfriends. and yes, size matters-- at first. but men who does not know anything else but to use their penis does not know how to please women. but my concept of beauty or being attractive is mine alone-- it surprises me that the typical media hype does not affect me (except in appreciating porn). i think, the more intelligent the person is, the less concern there is about race. the laws of attraction is more complicated than what everyone says in any media (tv, movies, internet).

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  25.   rshen says:
    Posted: 23 Feb 10

    I kind of agree with ugly. Most white women I dated don't really care about the size of the penis. They prefer good orgasms instead. Why is inter relationship between asian men and white women more common nowadays, specially in the US? Well, because the entire Asian economy is growing. Let by China and India, they are spreading their influences around the world. Asians are gaining confidence, and the western world can no longer ignore us anymore. Chinese are no longer the villains on Hollywood movies. We are no longer viewed as evil, less civilized, dirty or second class citizens in the eyes of the westerners, but as equals. The bottom line: westerners need us economically and politically.

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  26.   Solace says:
    Posted: 23 Feb 10

    @ugly - as a woman, I can say that this is actually true, well from my point of view anyway!

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  27.   Wonka says:
    Posted: 21 Feb 10

    relationships,sorry!!

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  28.   Wonka says:
    Posted: 21 Feb 10

    That Asian chick in the video is A HOTTY!!.However this isn't something that's new,asian & caucasian relatioships have existed for many years.I'm 24 and I've seen these types of relationships since I was a little WONKA!.I do,however think most of it is just a matter of preference,sort of a true comfort level.

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  29.   Bdune says:
    Posted: 19 Feb 10

    I am a white male married to a Latina....some stereotypes are cultural so they do get manifested but if you raised my wife where I grew up she would be just like me. I think women instigate the interracial dating thing. Yes there are some who are sincere but many are actually neurotic. I was dating about four white women when I dated my wife but the one I wanted to marry got murdered by her ex-boyfriend. Grief drove me into the arms of my wife and one thing led to another. Any women who stereotype their men of their race are confused at best, sick at worst. I do not know many Asian men ...the few I met were my Tae Kwon Do instructors and they were bad asses. However I have run into a lot of effeminate white men and black men but this is just a matter of exposure. It is a matter of curiosity to some degree also. "Grass is greener..." Being married to a Latina I find myself not much attrACTED TO lATINAS ANYMORE. However when they find out I speak Spanish and know their culture (if there is such a thing) they like me. I have a friend...a black guy. He married this white woman who had been married to a white guy. However her first marriage got bad and instead of marrying a guy who was actually different she married the same guy with darker skin. Needless to say that is racism and their marriage is collapsing.I find very little attraction to asian women. To me race is not much of a factor. I get attracted to women not really because of their looks to tell you the truth. Yea I look and might get hard but I get really attracted when I spend time with a woman and something a lot deeper than mi pajaro gets moved. It is then that I want to mouth her and rub her back and feet and spend time and money on her. My sons split...one loves white woman (married one) and the other has dated all races but his steady right now is Latina.

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  30.   ugly says:
    Posted: 16 Feb 10

    I tend to like skinny white girls and I think one of the best combination is Asian and White so I want my kids to be half Vietnamese and half White (European Ancestry). I think it's good to mix races so eventually race won't matter and hopefully religion and politics won't matter and then we can all get along. Remember guys you must give her orgasms, don't settle for less and your girl will never leave you. Peace

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  31.   ugly says:
    Posted: 16 Feb 10

    I'm a Vietnamese Male and I have a small penis 5.5 inches not thick and it's not because I'm asian, some of my asian friends have porn star penises, kind of scary. I'm 5'10 145lbs a professional modern dancer/martial artist. I have dated all types of girls mostly Mexicans and Whites. Non of them cared about my penis size because I have the confidence and know what to do in order to give them orgasms. Penis size doesn't matter, the G-spot is only about 2-3 inches up against the vaginal wall so having a big penis is actually a disadvantage plus it makes your girls vagina looks gross by being all loose and inside out like a slab of beat meat. Asian guys all you have to do is learn to be a good dancer and know how to give clitoris and g-spot orgasms and your girl will never leave you, trust me once you give them good orgasms nothing else matters. Be Confident and handle your business.

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  32.   rshen says:
    Posted: 14 Feb 10

    I'm a Chinese who grew up in the US, and I always dated white women. I find them extremely sexy, open minded, and very fun the flirt with. In fact, I even married a blond that I'm totally crazy about. I have to admit dating a white woman in the US was not easy and the bad stereotypes made it even worst. But well educated white women are much more open in dating asian men. Fortunately for me, I'm very well educated, and so is my wife. There are lots of white women out there who would love to date asians. The problem is not many Asian men ask them out. Some of my ex even complained about asian guys not asking them out. When some of my asian friends asked me how do I date white women, I tell them is simple, just ask them out. But very few take my advice and turn it into action. Perhaps that is the reason why there are so many white men with asian women and so few asian men with white women. Despite the stereotypes, white men are not shy in asking asian women out. My advice to other asian men in wanting to date a white woman is don't be shy. If you like her, go talk to her and ask her out. You'll be surprise how many would say yes! And if the answer is no, don't get discourage. Remember this mathematical equation: the more you ask, the more yes you'll get. Practice makes perfect, so practice, practice and practice!!!!

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  33.   Solace says:
    Posted: 14 Feb 10

    I'm English, living in London and my boyfriend of six months is Japanese. I've actually had a bit of a fixation with Japanese men for a while, as there are a lot of beautiful Japanese men in London! My boyfriend is actually quite short and is in touch with his feminine side, without foresaking his masculinity - he isn't a product of society's expectation of what a man should be like! I find that very appealing (I really don't like macho men)! He is extremely beautiful, sweet, funny, considerate, respectful and polite but also has a wild side, is a real party animal and great fun with a wonderful, wacky sense of humour. I don't think I've ever been as attracted to anyone in my life! My concluding point is that Asian guys are hot!

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  34.   rarestgold says:
    Posted: 11 Feb 10

    If you have any doubts about the hottness of asian men or their ability to break into hollywood and compete with WM, please take a look at Daniel Henney and then get back to me.

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    • theman7 says:
      Posted: 29 May 11

      yeah he's half krn. he does filming/acting both in USA and S. Korea!

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  35.   LadyDay says:
    Posted: 11 Feb 10

    I am not that well versed in this subject, but from what I see, I see more AF/WM. This is just my opinion ,but I think it is because a lot of Asian women are submissive. I am not sure why there are not that many AM/WF mixes.

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  36.   coolj says:
    Posted: 10 Feb 10

    I am 31 yr old Taiwanese/Aussie guy who recently married a very beautiful 20 yr old brunette (pagent winner). We met in an african church, and I being the only asian guy and she being the only white girl gave us an opportunity for a relationship. We got opposition from both families because of their different cultural values and language barrier. On our wedding day, my wife's family did not showed up and only my mum attended. We married because we loved other and shared similar values and passions. These family hurdles do affect our relationship but our love for each other grows stronger because of it. From our experience cross cultural relationships are much harder work but it pays off more. In these global times, more and more cross cultural relationships will develop. Be prepare for potential opposition from friends and family and above all love each other through it all.

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  37.   a says:
    Posted: 10 Feb 10

    @Pink chick And why did you even bother sleeping with an asian man when you already have preconceived ideas about asians? Not all asian men are small. As for your comment about big time actors being white, I agree with omondieu, it's all about ignorance and stereotypes that people believe such as your self that just slows down any progress. Give it some time, and I guarantee you there will be more asian celebrities besides in asia, and I'm curious to see what you will say about asians then.

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  38.   Member says:
    Posted: 09 Feb 10

    Yes i have i actually have been to thailand twice and singapore 7 times so yeh i have truly interacted im not just saying for the f of it im obviously talking from experience lol. Yes i did know there were talented actors in asia but im on about proper big name actors known worldwide not the small time ones im not from america btw im from GREAT Britain. As for ur second load of jiber jaber never seen much difference in looks and ive seen hundreds of them u must have eyes like an eagle they all look the same lol i did sleep with one asian once though and damm i was dissapointed that is one difference i noticed a small endowment hehe.

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  39.   omondieu says:
    Posted: 09 Feb 10

    @Pink chick: Have you ever truly interacted with non-whites? Did you know that there are very talented non-white actors in Asia? The only thing that makes Asian (male and female) actors less popular in North America is the ignorance of people like you, who believe that there is something about whites that makes us inherently superior to other races. If you had any knowledge of Asian people beyond the stereotypes you see in mainstream media, you'd see just how much variety there is among them, as well. You'd see a whole spectrum of blacks and browns in their hair and eyes that you'd never noticed, before.

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  40.   holm says:
    Posted: 06 Feb 10

    There are many short sighted Asian men here who miss the end of the tunnel in regards to white women. White women can only possibly look good when they are young. White women have no melanin to protect their skin from sun damage. This causes their skin to accumulate sun damage over the course of their life times. Whereas colored women will still be looking good mid age, white women will have wrinkly, dry, leathery and blotchy skin. In the long run, non-white women are a better choice due to their melanin.

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  41.   Member says:
    Posted: 03 Feb 10

    Hi i am a 23 year old white model and i just like to say how can u even compare a white guy to any other race? And white people are the only race that have different colour eyes different colour hair there just so much choice like look at celebs aswell brad pitt jhon travolter david beckham etc etc wers the asians no wer cause there not as popular in society simple as. as for fitness not one asian guy hav every one a mr olympia and they completely set up the olympic games and brought disgrace to the sport. Asian girls want white men cause there just better simples.:)

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  42.   Rizal says:
    Posted: 03 Feb 10

    I personally believe that people must learn to look beyond race and culture to the heart of the person. I never choose my friends based upon their culture nor upon their race. I find other cultures to be interesting and I'm always looking forward to learning something new. I am currently taking International Developmental studies, my third language is Chinese and I am also working on Tagalog. I am also very much head over heals for a Filipino boy and I am a white female. Maybe we should just realize the truth of it all, we are all human beings and if we keep generalizing and looking at the world through our narrow stereotype gaze than we might as well try to stare down a straw for the rest of our lives. The most that matters is loving the person you are with. I also love to see mixed relationships because it really does show people that this world does work, people can live peacefully and lovingly with each other.

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  43.   a says:
    Posted: 01 Feb 10

    @ugh I don't think asian women are racist of their own, it has more to do with preference. I'm an asian guy and have met with a lot of nice asian women. I know there are more asian women dating white men, but the fact of the matter is, in america, we live in a male dominated society and there are troubling stereotypes in the media with asians. I'm not saying the media is the only to blame (one has to have confidence, positive attitude, be outgoing etc), but it doesn't help because I know some people who believe it (sometimes Hollywood makes asians look bad for some reason).

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  44.   Jocelyn says:
    Posted: 29 Jan 10

    This is a great topic -- one that I hold dear to my heart, as a Euro-American married to a Chinese man. I did a post about the rarity of foreign women and Chinese men together: http://www.speakingofchina.com/china-articles/foreign-women-chinese-boyfriend-chinese-husband/ But you pose a good question, in asking the opposite -- as in, why Asian men and Caucasian women couples are becoming more common. I'm not sure I can speak for all Asian men, but I can take a guess for Chinese men -- as China has opened, Chinese men are opening their minds too. There are more and more unconventional Chinese men willing to imagine a future with a Caucasian woman. Still, we will remain a minority because, in general, single women under 40 who go to China are still a huge minority, so Chinese men have a very very small pool to choose from.

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  45.   omondieu says:
    Posted: 28 Jan 10

    You sound like a real catch, redakt...

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  46.   turtle says:
    Posted: 26 Jan 10

    I am a white (southern) female, and I have been in a relationship with my Chinese boyfriend for about two years. I never dated around very much before meeting him, mostly because I never found anyone very interesting. He is, in fact, my first love, my first boyfriend, and the first Asian man I've dated. I would certainly be lying if I didn't say that looks played a part. He's very handsome, and I am wildly attracted to him. I love running my fingers through his dark hair, and along his smooth, baby-soft skin. I love that his lips are so full and a pleasure to kiss, and I love his long, slender (but masculine) build. I'm sure he has a similar list of things that he admires about me. His personality is wonderful. I love that he is a thoughtful, well-spoken man. I love that he is intelligent and confident in the things he speaks about. I love that he is always looking for ways to be sweet to me, if only to see me smile. I love that he teaches me about things he knows, and seems to truly enjoy it. I also love that he can appreciate me, flaws included, and rationally say that we can conquer any problem in our relationship without ending it. I love that he's a gentleman, polite and gentle at every turn, and that he actually cares about what our families think about us and our relationship. There are a lot of things that many men of all races could learn from him. Being from the southern part of the US, racism is a bit more widespread that in other places, such as the Northeast or Pacific areas. I have actually only seem ONE other AM/WF couple in passing since I've started looking, and he and I get a lot of strange looks from asian and white folks alike. This generally doesn't bother us, but it is rather intriguing that we are more of a rarity in the world of interracial dating.

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  47.   ugh says:
    Posted: 25 Jan 10

    I wish Asian girls and White men would date each other more; this would just mean more white women for Asian guys like me. You have self-hating Asian girls who are the only women in the world racist against their own men on one hand, and white men who wants a submissive Asian girl to take their abuse and be a passive, no-sense of indepedent sex slave on the other hand. I would say the two deserve each other.

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  48.   redakt says:
    Posted: 23 Jan 10

    I love asian girls, im white and I much prefer them over stuffy white women. much prettier better behaved (most of the time) very submissive and accomodating especially phillipino and japanese ones, just stunning

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  49.   mikeyboy says:
    Posted: 23 Jan 10

    asians here in new york city have a distinct advantage in that white men have been crowded out of the job market, particular in finance industries, leaving mostly asian males and white women working together. the asians, not fearing sexual harassment laws due to having a patriarchal, malecentric culture, are extremely aggressive in pursuing white women at their workplace. the white women, now from the generation who have been taught in school k-12 that to deny a minority anything is tantamount to racism, usually give in to dates.

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  50.   mikeyboy says:
    Posted: 23 Jan 10

    I find the contraidiction. I see a lot of complaining from asian men about a supposed disparity between asian male, white female/white male, asian female relationships, and yet most of these same people are mentioning having been in relationships with white women. the fact is one third of all AMERICAN born asian men are marry white women. when one factors in the relationships which don't end in marriage, the vast majority of asian men have "access" to white women. of course an off the boat asian guy is not going to stand as good as a chance, just as an off the boat russian, mexican or whatever who is not assimiliated into the majority culture. i would go so far as to say that asians actually have a distinct advantage over white men in meeting white women for a number of reasons.

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