Would you bring up the discussion of interracial relationships on an interracial date?

Posted by James, 06 Jul

So, this Monday on the Bachelorette, 26-year-old pro football player Andrew S. decided to bring the discussion about interracial dating on their one-on-one date with Katie Thurston.

"I hate that I even have to have this conversation because I don't want to, but the fact that I am, it's because I do truly see, you know, something between us. And I am a Black man. And you are a white woman, and interracial couples, there's things that, you know, people look at differently," Andrew sprung that on Katie.

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He went on to tell her how he almost proposed to a woman who wasn’t she was cut out to handle the judgment that some onlookers, even friends, and family pass on to interracial couples.

The thing is: the chick wasn’t racist. She just was worried about deal with awkward questions at the grocery store like: 'Are these your kids. They don’t look at you’.

This can be a touchy subject but sometimes I think it's best that couples discuss this before they get in too deep only for one party to be disappointed.

Andrew admitted that it was tough for him because he was going to propose to her soon.

Katie said hearing Andrew's experience broke his heart saying, “I feel so naive as a white woman of the struggles that you experience as a Black man, especially a Black man trying to date a white woman. Know that, for me, I think our love could be so beautiful, and our children would be just as beautiful as that love, and I don't give a **** when people want to look at me."

Katie’s perfect response wowed viewers of the show. She even said how she would never let anyone come between them and the beautiful kids they would have as a couple.

Katie also admitted that the question of that issue of mixed kids had never crossed her mind… saying it's probably because she is a naïve white woman.

“You know, all I want is to have a beautiful family regardless of how they look," shared Katie.

As I said, these are real conversations that people should be having. I think couples should try and be more honest with one another about interracial relationships.

5 responses to " Would you bring up the discussion of interracial relationships on an interracial date?"

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  1.   Chillrich21 says:
    Posted: 03 Sep 21

    You have to ask those questions people have agendas you have women on here who use black men as a back up option when they no longer attractive to white men or they have some sort of fetish they want to experience

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  2.   ChangeHeard says:
    Posted: 30 Aug 21

    Yes. All conversation would be on the table. First I would express that we are ALL of the "HUMAN RACE". Different in color, only. We have the same emotions feelings, ups, and downs as a people trying to survive. We as an interracial couple do face whispers, stares, and sometimes even negative voices of violence. So do people of the same colors, and nationalities. From religious beliefs, to sexual preferences, and lifestyles. All are associated to everyone. As a WOC I know women not of my skin color who wear wigs extensions and so forth. The difference is, does one care what the public, family and or friends think...?Personally none of them can live my life for me and, we get only a few chances to be happy in this life... I choose to be with one who has dated a WOC so that there would be no surprises for either of us. I say go for it! Ask away!!!

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  3.   PAwoman says:
    Posted: 28 Aug 21

    Lately, since I've been on the dating sites and meeting men of different races and nationalities, I always make it my business to ask if they have dated interracially or not only because I need to know if some are familiar with or comfortable with my culture and not only that, what interracial couples are up against because of the history of the past when it comes to race.

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  4.   thmsbldwn1 says:
    Posted: 21 Jul 21

    I was married 3 times. The 1st was with a black lady. I'm black also. This lasted less than 6 months. The 2nd was with a Mexican lady. She passed away after 23 years. The 3rd marriage was with a white lady from Europe. We were happily married 29yrs. I would initiate a subject like this but I would tell any adult to follow their heart and have a relationship you truly love. Race should have nothing to do with it at all.

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  5.   cassie193 says:
    Posted: 16 Jul 21

    Truthfully, I normally speak about this topic BEFORE we go a date. Normally, this is a way for us to see if we can DATE one another and speak about whatever issues that we might possibly have.

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