Would their exes ruin this romance?

Posted by Leticia, 17 Nov

When “Tayza010” met “Mr. Vi,” sparks flew. But how did these profile handles and the people behind them come to be on our site? Here’s LaTayza’s recollection… “I somehow came across the interracial dating page on Facebook and was wowed by the stories, so I decided to follow the page. Later, I decided to join the international dating site.

Was she an online dating newb? “Yes, this was my first experience with online interracial dating, and I’m happy to call it my last,” beams LaTayza.

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Vitali (“Mr. Vi”) was also new to this but thought that our site would give him better odds of meeting someone. “I decided to try it because, why not? Girls don’t talk to me in real life because I’m ugly,” he laughs. “So I gave it a shot!”

Going in, LaTayza worried this whole thing might be a waste of time. “To be honest, I wasn’t sure what to expect,” she tells us. “I pretty much thought I would only chat with a few people here and there, and never make it past that point. I was also a little skeptical I was going to meet someone in person, because the whole thing was so new to me.”

Vitali saw this as a complete “Hail Mary” play. “I wasn’t confident at all to find my love. I thought it was a joke!”

Given their trepidation, it is kind of funny that it took LaTayza just a month of membership to find Vitali. He had barely logged in, before that. “I was on the site maybe half a year, but I didn’t really use it before we started talking,” admits Vitali.

So how did that happen? “I ended up sending Vitali a Flirt,” LaTayza reports. “He responded ‘yes,’ he was interested. And it just went from there.”

Several things about Vitali sparked LaTayza’s interest. “He was good looking, for one. Haha! His profile didn’t say much, only that he was from Russia, kinda new to the country, and looking for a nice family-oriented girl. It was like a mystery I was ready to solve. I love the result.”

Vitali felt drawn to her right away. “I saw her pictures and was like ‘wow, she is hot!’ I fell in love just seeing her pictures.”

They didn’t want to rely entirely on lenses and screens, of course. “After Skyping every single day, I’m pretty sure both of us grew tired of just seeing each other via video — well, at least I was,” laughs LaTayza. “When we talked, he actually put effort into his conversations. Later we joked about driving and meeting each other halfway, but ended up doing it one day as a spur-of-the moment kind of thing. The night before I asked him and he said yes.”

Vitali nods emphatically. “I loved everything about her. I knew I was ready.” LaTayza remembers the excited rush that preceded their meeting. “We both got ready within hours and drove a little over five hours,” she says. Vitali jumps in there to add, “I drove to Pennsylvania from New York and she from Indiana. It was such a long drive, and I was on a motorcycle.”

Before Vitali arrived, LaTayza had to get her head right. “I was soooo nervous. I arrived before him, so I anticipated the moment and had to get my nerves together before he showed up. But I thought, ‘I can’t believe I get to hug you in person!’”

Once LaTayza’s nerves were under control, their time together was very relaxing. “We met in a small town in Pennsylvania at a park, where we had a little picnic,” she says. What surprised her the most about this experience was “How kind he was. He was everything I expected, and just how he portrayed himself on Skype. His accent was heavy because he’s from Russia, but I had gotten used to it by then. And his eyes were even more gorgeous in person!”

After the success of their first date, the duo felt certain they would do this again. “I wasn’t only sure I wanted to see him again, I knew he was someone I wanted to spend my life with,” declares LaTayza.

Vitali gazes affectionately at his partner. “I enjoyed every second with you, even though I was tired and sleepy as hell.” He tells us that he didn’t have any doubts about his desire to proceed. “I knew I wanted to be with her, and that I already loved her.”

There are almost always obstacles in a couple’s path, and this case was no exception. “He kinda had a crazy ex-girlfriend, which was quite an obstacle,” LaTayza laughs. “And of course, getting used to the distance was a challenge.”

Vitali had his own view of it. “My obstacles were her ex and thinking that some guy would try to steal her from me because I wasn’t there with her,” he says, voicing a concern that many in long-distance relationships share.

But no exes or new contenders could tear these two away from each other. The sometimes-bumpy road led them to a happy destination: engagement! “He asked me on Skype, just joking to see what I would say, but when he asked in person I knew he was serious,” LaTayza informs us.

Vitali will never forget that day. “I asked her in Washington, in front of the Lincoln Memorial,” he says. “I wanted to get married then and there and just go sign some papers, have a big wedding later, but we decided to wait.”

Now that they’re betrothed to be married and this relationship is as solid as the stone of the Washington Monument, LaTayza can reflect on how her life has changed. “It’s changed my life because I feel like I don’t have to look for love any longer and go through the horrible dating process. I’m positive that this guy is gonna be by my side forever. This is only the beginning… Thanks to you guys!”

“She changed my life because she’s the girl I’ve always been waiting for. I’m a little upset it took her so long,” laughs Vitali.

We asked LaTayza if Vitali was her type, or if she had to learn to appreciate his good qualities. She ponders that before answering. “Well I don’t really have a type, except that he’d have to be somewhat attractive in my eyes, and a guy who could make me smile and laugh. He did that so constantly my cheeks would hurt from smiling so much!”

Vitali wouldn’t change anything about LaTayza. “She is exactly what I expected,” he says. “She has a beautiful smile. She’s smart, tough, kind, and takes care of herself. She makes me smile and sings for me. I love everything about her.”

Here are a few words of encouragement for singles still looking for “The One” online. “I say, never say never,” LaTayza opines. “Anything could happen! You might meet your Romeo or Prince Charming online. Don’t knock it until you try it. Going online is one of the best things that ever happened to me. There’s someone out there waiting for you, it just takes time and patience.”

For LaTayza and Vitali, their patience was rewarded.

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  1.   Etaiwo says:
    Posted: 07 Sep 19

    What they need is strong love and the relationship will be a romantic one

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  2.   AFRICA200 says:
    Posted: 26 Aug 19

    Well..our exes had their chancesand they misused it ..If we keep on holding to the past we can't move on. ..and am sure love. .trust and over come obstacles

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  3.   Mughal. says:
    Posted: 23 Aug 19

    Hi everyone how are you And i want girlfriend for marry

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  4.   Mosezy says:
    Posted: 23 Aug 19

    True love and faith is in the key to everything

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  5.   jjlaura says:
    Posted: 20 Aug 19

    I love that story..love leticia

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  6.   Sheriff44v says:
    Posted: 15 Aug 19

    Well after reading that i would surely lile to meet someone and fall in love also and live happy onwards but i do not know if i could be that lucky or fortunate it will be something l would relish for the rest of my life.

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    • Stina200 says:
      Posted: 23 Aug 19

      You will definitely meet someone. There is someone for each and every person. Just keep the faith. Never stop believing because miracles happen everyday.

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  7.   081027 says:
    Posted: 05 Aug 19

    hi

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  8.   B.49 says:
    Posted: 03 Aug 19

    No

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  9.   Haluwa.39 says:
    Posted: 24 Jul 19

    No

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  10.   Tiras says:
    Posted: 21 Jul 19

    If their is strong I believe nothing is going to shake them off the truch

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  11.   Waluko says:
    Posted: 13 Jun 19

    What's important is love. Love can change every thing.

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  12.   Waluko says:
    Posted: 13 Jun 19

    There exes can enjoy the same romance because both of them have decided, so these are issues of the heart.

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  13.   Bedpawa says:
    Posted: 11 Jun 19

    Thanks for your advice but love is all about who loves you but not whom you love

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  14.   Tweki says:
    Posted: 10 Jun 19

    Thanks for the inspiration story,,what i know is that love can lead you either to the wright or wrong side what we need is God guidance and prayers

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  15.   Lovelyl10 says:
    Posted: 28 May 19

    Thanks for your advise.

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  16.   lylal says:
    Posted: 29 Apr 19

    if she could she would

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  17.   Jhonikhan says:
    Posted: 23 Apr 19

    Any white woman for serious relationship for long time email me

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  18.   Arse. says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 19

    So wonderful❤❤❤

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  19.   Pichou1994 says:
    Posted: 14 Apr 19

    Love never fails

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  20.   Timmylove says:
    Posted: 30 Mar 19

    Very interesting and inspiring too may I be led too

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  21.   liliana45. says:
    Posted: 26 Mar 19

    Exes are Exes, so they are in the past now, all you have to do is move on with the new romance. There couldn't be a possible way the could ruin your romance if u guys fully love each other keep it moving.

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  22.   Hamans says:
    Posted: 21 Mar 19

    So wonderful whatever it is ! Respect be to our site

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  23.   Macvi says:
    Posted: 20 Mar 19

    Thanks a lot l appreciate your write up and your patience have given you joy and happiness. My regards

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  24.   Mssoftie says:
    Posted: 18 Mar 19

    Love never fails its people who does the falling.

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  25.   Mkpaul says:
    Posted: 16 Feb 19

    Not at all

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  26.   tallwalking says:
    Posted: 13 Feb 19

    married a black lady that college two degree oldest of 10 children some like her some didn"t dated some black lady in jacksonville, Florida and if you know the south you know how that went over i didn"t go to my side family for holiday days they came around after some time married for 19 years she went back to florida and stay in colorado divorice now would like to date another black lady over 6' tall taller the better 75 plus

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  27.   Quowal says:
    Posted: 12 Feb 19

    Like you letecia

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  28.   That10guy1 says:
    Posted: 11 Feb 19

    My ex wants me back but no deal.

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  29.   S.jawo says:
    Posted: 11 Feb 19

    Perfect and good luck

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  30.   ltna says:
    Posted: 11 Feb 19

    very inspiring story!

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  31.   A.Dampha says:
    Posted: 28 Jan 19

    No one human being is perfect.....

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  32.   A.Dampha says:
    Posted: 28 Jan 19

    Wonderful sound story....

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  33.   Hawakwisa says:
    Posted: 23 Jan 19

    No because true love is unbreakable,,,,, and God protects them, they will overcome everything

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  34.   LHOZ says:
    Posted: 19 Jan 19

    Yes

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  35.   Stanleyco says:
    Posted: 07 Jan 19

    No perfect in life

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  36.   Kanbreny says:
    Posted: 25 Nov 18

    People need to start a new life without exes

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  37.   Lab50 says:
    Posted: 16 Nov 18

    It is good like that .

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  38.   sheena1234 says:
    Posted: 12 Nov 18

    no way God won't allow it to happen

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  39.   Shylla says:
    Posted: 08 Nov 18

    No one needs to be smart

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  40.   Kim40515 says:
    Posted: 04 Nov 18

    Very cool

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  41.   celineah says:
    Posted: 04 Nov 18

    congratulation ladies and gentleman all the best

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  42.   Divagyal says:
    Posted: 02 Nov 18

    I love that,..all the best,..

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  43.   TotoEssy says:
    Posted: 30 Oct 18

    nice

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  44.   Bio3 says:
    Posted: 19 Oct 18

    No they cant. Because love with their exes does not exist

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  45.   tapal says:
    Posted: 17 Oct 18

    it inspired me ,and highly intrested to meet,a wonderful woman as well,therefore I solicit and count for your eariest kind competend consideration as well.

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  46.   Vickey097 says:
    Posted: 16 Oct 18

    True love waits

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    • Shiva- says:
      Posted: 28 Nov 18

      Hi dear freind hello i am Shiva live in Ahmedabad gujrat in India can you real and honesty Friendship to me

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  47.   Water0184 says:
    Posted: 15 Oct 18

    No. He would not ruin this romance. Because love is very powerful. Is from above

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  48.   P2pat says:
    Posted: 10 Oct 18

    Am praying so hard to meet my hubby here

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  49.   Walemat says:
    Posted: 09 Oct 18

    Good

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  50.   Doublechu says:
    Posted: 04 Oct 18

    Happy for them

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