Interracial Marriages

Yullanda & Howard -
North Carolina, United States

Married October 2013

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From Typing on a Screen to Life Is But a Dream

Yullanda declares, “Don’t allow anyone to tell you online dating is bad! If I had listened to everyone who told me not to date online, I would not have found my friend, my lover, my soulmate, my king, my husband... I am so in love with this man and I thank GOD everyday that I wake and see him lying next to me. The bonus is that our kids get along and we are a true family.”

Stirring words, to be sure, but how did she get there? Joining our site was obviously a big first step, but we’ll let Yullanda and her husband, Howard, tell the tale in their own words.

“I don’t really know why I went on the site,” Yullanda confesses. “I had tried out another site and was told about yours.” She says she joined without really thinking she would find love. “I was really just on here to find a friend to talk to,” she says.

Howard was frustrated with dating and encountered some attitudes in his area that he couldn’t get behind. “I was tired of local bull crap,” he tells us, mincing no words! “You were my very first experience [dating online]. I was not confident at all.”

Still, Howard stuck with it for about two years, if his memory serves, before crossing paths with Yullanda. “Yullanda reached out to me,” he says. “She sent me a simple Flirt and from there, it was on!”

At that point Yullanda had been a member for about two months. Something about his profile just spoke to her. Was Howard her type? “He was actually MORE than my type,” she laughs. “I had high standards, too.” She needed someone who loved kids, and Howard definitely fit the bill. He has his own children and they mean the world to him.

When he saw who had sent him that Flirt, Howard flipped for her. He remembers thinking, “I have GOT to meet her! She is what I need in my life.”

One reason Yullanda was quickly ready to meet in person was to make sure Howard came as advertised. “I wanted to make sure he was who he stated he was,” she explains. Why waste time with a virtual courtship when you can safely meet in person and get a more definitive feel for who someone really is? Howard was on the same page. Today he laughs, “She had my mind going, and I needed to know, “Is she real, and not just typing on a screen?’”

The first date couldn’t have gone better. Yullanda’s assessment? “Awesome, awesome, awesome!” Howard’s first thought was, “Please say she is not a joke!” He couldn’t believe his good fortune.

In fact, after getting to know each other online, there wasn’t much to say at the start. As Howard remembers it, “She got out of the car, sat on my lap and we kissed for over five minutes.” Yullanda can corroborate that. “No words spoken, no hello, just a kiss,” she says.

As their relationship progressed, Howard kept waiting for the other shoe to drop but it never did. “She is everything her profile stated she was, and more!” Yullanda says that Howard’s profile didn’t reflect the full breadth of his heart and openness. “He treated my kids like his own,” she adds. That was a big deal to her.

That being said, the couple didn’t introduce their children to one another until they were sure their own relationship was rock solid. When that day came it represented a big vote of confidence, for both of them. “We wanted to make sure we would work out first,” Yullanda tells us.

One day something momentous happened. “His band was to play at a big function,” Yullanda recalls. “He asked me to call and invite my friends and family so they could hear his band play for the first time. As he was singing one of the songs they wrote, he called me up on stage in front of 100+ people, and proposed!”

Finding love has changed Yullanda in more ways than she can count. “It has made me love more, and love hard,” she says, the intensity of her feelings shining through in her words. Howard feels renewed hope and optimism. “Yullanda has made me want to achieve and believe again,” he beams.

To other singles he says, “Believe that there is love out there for you... Don’t just settle.” And that ain’t bull crap.

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