Interracial Relationships

Deedee & Sal -
New York, United States

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Love is Like a Needle in a Haystack

Sal had grown jaded about love. He didn’t enjoy the process of approaching women in bars or clubs, and he dreaded awkward dates with strangers. He wasn’t even sure if our society was still conducive to meaningful, committed relationships. “I began to doubt that people today know what it takes to truly be in love,” he explains. “But I believed that my chance to find true love was better online.”

Deedee was not afraid to roll up her sleeves and put in the work to find a soulmate. She joined our site with full confidence that if she kept trying and didn’t give up, she would find her man. “I knew there were men out there searching for the same things I was looking for,” she tells us. “I was willing to dig through the haystack to find that needle. But I found something much better… I found a pot of gold!”

Sal had only been a member of our site for a few weeks when he spotted Deedee’s profile. “There she was!” he says, describing the excitement of that moment. “My Dee! The one I had searched for, someone who knows what a relationship needs in order to grow. She saved my heart.”

Unfortunately, Deedee didn’t respond to Sal’s first message. Whoops! “His message got lost in the mix,” she says. I missed the opportunity to respond!”

For many guys, that would have been the time to write her off and move on to someone else. And Sal did, to an extent. But he couldn’t quite forget Deedee… So three months later, when he noticed her profile again, he had a decision to make. “Once again, I spotted that great smile,” he says. Obviously, Deedee had not found the right person yet. And obviously, she was someone Sal was convinced might be a GREAT match for him. So where was the harm in trying again? What was the worst that could happen?

Picking up the story there, Deedee says, “He reached out to me again. This time around it was with a well-written email that raised an eyebrow for me. After a few pleasant email exchanges, we began to really enjoy the flow of the dialogue and felt comfortable enough to exchange phone numbers.”

Their telephone conversations were stimulating but sophisticated. “He never let the conversation morph into a flirtatious roller coaster,” Deedee says. “He’s a very mature man—and by mature, I don’t mean stuffy, boring… I mean a man who ‘gets it.’ He communicated on a more emotional level. He wasn’t afraid of expressing his feelings.”

Sal agrees. “The ease with which we spoke to one another really stood out to me. The communication was open and honest. Nothing was hidden. She put who she is, where she’s been and where she wants to be right on the table. This made it so easy to get to know her and fall in love with her!”

With that kind of chemistry, it wasn’t long before they were making arrangements to meet offline. Their first date was lunch at a café. “The first thing I noticed was that he was a tall, very handsome man with an amazing smile,” Deedee says. She adds that Sal was a perfect gentleman. “He was genuinely interested in getting to know me. He certainly exceeded my expectations.”

Sal says that Deedee’s profile photos didn’t do her justice. “She was stunning! I was lost in her eyes, her smile and the way she carried herself. As the day progressed, she proved to be as beautiful on the inside. Her approach to life, her needs and wants, were all in sync with mine. Our conversation flowed so easily. It just felt so right!”

Today, the couple is happily dating. “I am falling in love with her more and more each day,” Sal says. “I will marry her and spend the rest of my days loving her and keeping that beautiful smile on her face.”

Is Deedee on board with that? Absolutely. “I absolutely adore Sal,” she says. “I love his wacky sense of humor, his confidence and his sensitivity. He’s also a great listener. I love the way he looks at me. How he compliments me and shows affection... not just to me but to other people. He does things to make me feel cherished as a woman and never forgets to hold my hand in public.”

Sal and Deedee believe that if it could happen for them, it could happen for anyone. “We are a true testament to finding love online,” Deedee says. “The key to happiness is having dreams. The key to success is making your dreams come true. Thank you for helping to make our dreams come true!”

We may have provided the means for them to meet, but it was clearly Sal’s persistence and Deedee’s openness that helped these two turn their dating profiles into something precious—like spinning hay into gold.

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