Interracial Marriages

Tiffane & Kai

Married October 2011

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That Pink Bag He Brought Didn’t Bother Her

As savvy singles, Tiffane and Kai knew there were more choices available online. They tried other personals sites before settling on ours. Even then, it took awhile for them to find each other. Tiffane was a member for about a year before she spotted Kai’s profile. He had been with us for several months at that point, but she hadn’t noticed him. Once she did, his profile stood out from the crowd as if there was a spotlight on it.

“From the first look, I knew he was going to be my husband,” she says of Kai’s profile. His personality shone through in what he wrote and the pictures he posted. To sum it up, Tiffane says Kai seemed “quirky, kooky and different… Self assured and positive.”

So she sent him a Flirt and he replied with an email. After a month of daily contact, Tiffane felt more than ready to meet the man in person. “He was the only thing on my mind,” she says. In all her previous experiences with dating online, this wasn’t something she had experienced.

Tiffane and Kai weren’t exactly neighbors, however. In fact, they didn’t even live in the same country! She was in Texas and he was in the U.K. But 5000 miles isn’t enough to keep loving hearts apart. Tiffane still remembers her first thought when Kai disembarked from his plane. “He's really here,” she rejoiced. “And he has a pink bag…”

While we’re not sure what was going on with that bag, we do know that when Kai first laid eyes on Tiffane, any lingering doubts melted away. “Her smile confirmed that all my assumptions were correct,” he says.

The in-person phase of their relationship began smoothly. “It picked up from exactly where we left off the day before, in a different country,” Tiffane says. Kai notes that it was “even easier to speak live than over Skype.”

Both Tiffane and Kai confess that they wouldn’t have thought the other was their “type,” based on previous relationships, but the more they got to know each other, the more this just felt right. “His kind and patient heart” is dear to her, says Tiffane, but his profile couldn’t convey that quality the way that spending time together does. Kai notes that “her confidence and ability to transmit her warmth” weren’t immediately apparent in Tiffane’s profile, either. But he’s grown to love this about her.

Tiffane and Kai are now living together as man and wife! Finding love has changed every aspect of his life, says Kai. “A 180-degree turnaround,” he says. “I assumed I would never find a partner to spend my life with.”

During their journey from skeptical singles to happy marrieds, Tiffane and Kai have learned a lot about themselves and about life. Tiffane advises other singles to allow themselves a hope for love she had little of when she started dating online. She feels fortunate to have found her special someone, especially when her faith in the idea of online dating wasn’t strong. “Dare to dream,” she urges. “My husband moved 5000+ miles to be with me! Nothing is impossible.”

Looking back on his misplaced expectations for a partner, Kai wants others to learn from his mistakes. “Keep an open mind,” he says. “Don't have a type. Don't be limited by your own preconceptions.”

As they say, mistakes are opportunities to learn. In this case, Tiffane and Kai were fast learners. I'd say they've graduated, wouldn't you?

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