Interracial Marriage

Ajani & Dave -
Georgia, United States

Married July 2011

Interracial Marriage - Their Love Would Not Be Denied
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Their Love Would Not Be Denied

Ajani had met some good men online before. When she joined our site, she wasn’t brimming with confidence, but she didn’t have a negative attitude, either. She put her odds of meeting someone special at about "50/50".

Dave would never have joined our site if it weren’t for a nudge from someone whose opinion he values. “My sister convinced me to give it a try,” he says. “This was my first time dating online!”

It took eight months, but eventually Dave found Ajani. Or more specifically, he found her profile. “Very beautiful woman,” he says of his reaction to her photo. “His profile picture was really cute,” chimes in Ajani. Both were very curious about the other.

And yet, this connection almost didn’t happen. “We had each decided independently not to send messages to each other, because of the distance,” Ajani explains.

You see, Dave lived in Pennsylvania and Ajani in Georgia. While the Internet connects people in different states as easily as those in the same neighborhood, the ultimate goal of online dating is to leave the computer behind. So it was with some trepidation that Dave “decided to give it a shot” and instant-messaged Ajani. “We were both still hesitant and unsure of the distance,” she says.

All it took was one live chat session to convince them there was a connection here. Communication progressed to texts and things really picked up steam when Dave and Ajani spoke on the phone. “The more we talked, the more connected we felt,” Ajani says.

Their conversations explored values, goals, spirituality, politics and much more. They found it easy to talk for hours at a time. “We pretty much knew before we met that something special was happening,” Ajani says. “Acquaintance developed into friendship and friendship into romance.”

Despite the distance, there was one thing working in their favor. Dave’s sister and brother-in-law lived in Georgia, not too far from Ajani. So Dave and Ajani planned to “hang out” at some point while he was visiting his relatives.

They ended up hanging out every night for three weeks! What struck Ajani the most was “how truly sweet and genuine he was,” she says now. “It was surprising how easily we connected,” puts in Dave. He interviewed for several jobs while he was in Georgia and landed one of them. From there, it took only two weeks to give notice at his old job, rent his home in Pennsylvania, and get back down to Georgia to be with Ajani.

Things moved pretty quickly from there, according to Ajani. “Dave moved in with me in April; I met his sister and brother-in-law that same month. He met my family in May and in June, we decided to get married. This past July 5th, we tied the knot in front of a judge with my mother as a witness.”

The interesting thing is that Dave didn’t propose. Explains Ajani, “We had a conversation about when to get married and just decided on a date right then and there!”

Dave is amazed at how much a relationship can change every aspect of a person’s life. “I’ve found someone who loves me totally. It's changed my world,” he says. Ajani agrees. “I feel like I’ve tapped into an entirely different aspect of life by finding a true partner and a best friend.”

As husband and wife, Dave and Ajani are making the kind of plans that affect generations to come. “I feel ridiculously grateful that neither of us passed on the opportunity to meet and get to know the other,” Ajani says. “I believe without a shadow of a doubt that Dave is the love of my life. We're looking forward to living the rest of our lives together, raising a family and creating memories for years to come.”

They hope that singles on our site won’t pass on opportunities for happiness like theirs. “Just keep it up, because love’s right around the corner,” Dave advises. Ajani tells singles to “know what you need, be able to articulate what you need… Be cautious, but keep an open mind!”

“Thanks for providing the vehicle for people interested in dating and marrying interracially to do so,” Ajani says. “I'm so glad this site existed for someone like me to use. It led me to my love.”

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